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Well you have a few issues here , if you have the HotCams Shim Kit , then start with a 1.75 and go from there , if that does not fit you will have to keep dropping sizes till you get to the right one , you will know when it slides in with a slight resistance , but not forcefully , if you get down to a 1.20 and its tight or still does not fit , then you are done and have to either replace the head or valves , since 1.20 is the smallest shim available
Now the issues:
If its that tight then the valves are on their way out , and its only a matter of time (a very short time/hours) that they go completely , or if you get to 1.20 then they are done , and your done riding till its fixed
Then you will have to decide (depending on your budget) on what you want to do , do you want to replace the valves with Titanium ?? , or Stainless ?? , the cost difference is minimal , but the cost can be anywhere from $200 to $1000 depending on if you do the majority of the work (except machine work) , or if your paying a shop to do it all(the latter is where the expense lies) , the major cost will be the seat cutting and any replacement parts needed to do the job correctly , depending on how worn the head is you may consider just replacing the head with a already done unit , ready to bolt back on ($500-$600 on up)
The options are plentiful , depending on your budget and needs , Ken (the owner here) does great work at competitive prices
http://www.crfsonly.com/catalog/index.php/cPath/258 , or you can go locally or to one of the "big" companies like Pro Circuit , but be prepared to just hand them your wallet and the quality will be no better than what Ken does here , you will be paying for the name with them , its all dependent on your budget and what you want to do , but the bottom line is , once the valves start to move then its only a matter of time , for most people around here , we usually go with Stainless , they will last far longer than the Titanium , although with some of the specialty stuff , the Titanium can last much longer than before
Hope that helped some (though probably not what you wanted to hear)